Waiting for your turn.
I’m sitting in class, listening to our instructor lecture on listening. What makes a good listener? Who do you think is a good listener? Why? These were the questions our teacher was asking our class. Yet, somehow this turns into a debate between classmates as to what defines a good listener. As the debate got heated one person would be sharing their point as at least three others would raise their hand, or just burst out into objection.
As they debated their ideas of a good listener they were failing to even hear the person before them. Many people were arguing a complete different point than anyone else had even brought up. Have you been in this situation? This brought to mind one of my favorite quotes. I don’t know off hand who said it, but it shows great perspective.
“Are you listening or are you just waiting on your turn to talk?”
As Christians we need to be listeners. Jesus listened. The trendy term of today is to be an “effective listener”. Listening doesn’t always require a verbal response so don’t feel you have to talk to listen. Sometimes the most effective way to listen is to not speak.
Like in a classroom, why is it important to share your opinion? Will it really change anyones mind, or will it just make you look like a know-it-all. Probably the latter.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, sometimes the way to be the best listener is to just shut your mouth and listen. As Christians we feel we need to defend our point of view, or speak up to justify our belief when a lot of times we are doing more harm than good. Know your place and know that you probably aren’t going to change someone’s life in a classroom debate, or a work meeting. Just shut up and listen, God will give you an opportunity to speak. It may not be then or there, but it will come.
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